Unconvinced

On their second day of driving they rode in the comfortable silence that comes when everything’s been said.

The miles behind them covered discussions of their children, now with her parents, and their pending stay at the coast. Neither felt the need to explore anything more than the passing mile markers or roadside oddities.

“Did you see that?” Josie asked.

“What?”

“On the shoulder. It looked like a body.”

“You mean the mattress?”

“That wasn’t a mattress. It was too lumpy.”

“It’s been hit by a car or two. It wasn’t a body, Jo.”

Unconvinced, they rode on in silence.

An unprompted drabble, 100 words. 

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It’s all relative

Last Sunday, my Novel In Progress group critiqued the first 25 pages of my novel, distributed three weeks earlier, in our twice-monthly round table forum. I’d heard warnings about the ego-bruising, described as a crucifixion by more than one veteran. I have never witnessed any personal attacks, yet I understood and was prepared to receive the feedback.

On the Wednesday before my big day I had a conversation with an executive from my parent-company. The conversation turned into a confrontation that turned into an angry parting of two stubborn people. It took me over a week to recognize that being right wasn’t important. Being stubborn and lacking political savvy negated all of my rightness. Sure, I still think I was right, but I was also naïve. I was equally naïve when I took steps to rectify the situation; initially, none of those steps included an apology. Thoughts of possible actions and outcomes consumed me. Every hour of every day, every conversation, every thought seemed couched in terms of ramifications for my future.

Sunday afternoon came without angst, relative to the dark clouds threatening my career. I entered the NIP room eager for the respite, a welcome distraction. For the better part of two hours I sat silently receiving the comments, criticisms and observations of my peers, fellow writers sincerely sharing their opinion, helping me improve. I may not agree with their feedback, I don’t have to take what they said to heart, none of it was personal, and much of it was shared with good humor. I was delighted by the experience.

The NIP members are not expecting my work to be perfect; they’re participating in a process that helps others improve. Conversely, unwarranted criticism at work, conflicting direction from executive leaders, blame for things outside of my control and a general absence of constructive feedback leaves me wondering how to improve and succeed in my career.

Now, I’m seeking changes in my work environment. I am working with executive sponsors who understand that I’m not perfect, but are willing to invest in my improvement. I’m better able to receive criticism when offset by healthy feedback. My goal is to create a NIP-equivalent with a team of corporate peers and mentors. It’s all relative.

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Counterpoint to Origin Unknown

He loves me.

I love knowing this. It’s awkward and inconvenient; undeniable in heightening my awareness.

He speaks only a little English, but strong emotions need no translation.

I nod at him, smiling. I’m polite, remote, yet his heart races when he sees me. His eyes follow me. I pass close enough to sense his warmth. He draws a deep breath, capturing my wake.

He loves me. This needs no proof but makes no sense. He doesn’t know me.

Perhaps he loves what I represent or what he imagines of me. Perhaps I crossed a line, sending unintended signals.

Perhaps.

This 100 word drabble-fiction is relatively unprompted. 

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Origin unknown

She hates me.

I hate knowing this. It’s awkward and inconvenient, a palpable weight on my conscience.

She speaks only a little English, but such strong emotions need no translation.

I nod at her, smiling. I’m invariably polite, yet she reciprocates with hate. She communicates with downcast eyes, “harrumphs,” and in turning away. I give her wide berth.

She hates me, but I can’t prove it. I fear her, but can’t tell you why.

Perhaps she hates what I represent or what she imagines of me. Perhaps I crossed a line, breaking protocol, entering her space as she worked.

Perhaps.

This 100 word drabble-fiction is relatively unprompted. 

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Read this before our next meeting, by Al Pittampalli

Whenever the words “free book” come anywhere close to my brain’s receptors, I twitch. And if the book in question is somehow relevant or interesting, then my reflexes take whatever action is required to acquire a copy. A free copy. It’s how I roll.

In this case, I found myself at the front end of a one-week opportunity to download a free copy of Read This Before Our Next Meeting, by Al Pittampalli. It took me until today to put everything in my world onto the teetering stack of the back-burner in order to read this book. I’m not sure why I gave this book priority but it turns out that tomorrow is the last day to get a free copy (kindle format) so I’m making this post a priority. If you or anyone you know is a victim of Corporate America’s love of meetings, this book should be taken under advisement.

“In a world without mediocre meetings, we’d be forced to make and defend difficult decisions.” This caught my attention immediately. Pittampalli goes on to explain why mediocre meetings are sucking the life out of organizations. On the flip side, he paints a lovely view of an environment in which Modern Meetings are well-planned and well-managed, and in which the participants are held accountable. Not a bad world to live in.

There are 7 Principles to expect in experiencing a Modern Meeting:

  1. Agenda should support a decision that is already made (conflict or coordination)
  2. Start on time, move fast and end on schedule (or early)
  3. Limit the attendees
  4. Reject the unprepared
  5. Produce committed action plans
  6. NOT informational
  7. Works with anti-meetings (brainstorming sessions)

There is also a great section on making the decisions that necessitate the meeting.

I’m still digesting all that I read, and I’m trying to figure out how to help evangelize change in the large company that my small company nests within. But, given sound of the clock ticking away the remaining seconds of the “free” status of the kindle version of this book, I made the decision to share this review sooner rather than later.

I’ll be back with updates providing real-life examples of how this manifesto altered my environment.

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Pardon me, your slip is showing

Last Wednesday morning, during my weekly group meeting at Einstein Bagels, I interrupted one of my girlfriend’s as she was telling a story. In fact, if ever there was a blurt, I blurted: “You have something between your teeth.” Then I began apologizing because clearly at some point in the story, I’d quit paying attention to the story, my mind distracted by the (shiny) dark object between two of her teeth. She reassured me, saying it was no problem, “That’s what friends do!” Consensus was that interrupting to report potential embarrassments (such as “you have a booger on your nose” or “your skirt is caught in your underwear”) is acceptable.

Yes, that’s what friends do. But what if you notice something potentially embarrassing and the mishap has mis-happened to a stranger? Do you point out the broccoli or the booger or the wardrobe failure to the unwitting victim? It’s awkward, right?

What if the broccoli is actually a typo? Typos are an inevitable part of publishing. Back in the day, Reader’s Digest had a regular section devoted just to typos that made it into print. Now, with the self-publishing forums of Twitter and Facebook, typos are incredibly easy to publish. It’s not always clear if the error is due to speed-typing/publishing or ignorance. Personally, I’m trying (heaven help me) to take the 3 extra seconds to read what I’ve written before I hit “publish.” Even so, I’ve recently published these jewels:

Oh, the humanity!

I accept that I’m fallible. We are human, and humans make mistakes. Unfortunately, I suffer from a blessing/curse caused by a damned gene (or possibly the fault of my upbringing) that has given me an eye for typos. I see them everywhere, just as Cole Sear sees dead people in The Sixth Sense. Sometimes they’re funny and sometimes they just make me wonder (i.e. the “funiest facebook status typo” fan page, apparently created to showcase one noteworthy facebook status. The misspelling of “funnies” appears to be inadvertent):

Now, the dilemma: if you find an error on a website, how do you graciously point this out to the publisher? Michael Hyatt, recently retired CEO from Thomas Nelson Publishing, has been putting up with my feedback for a while. He is always gracious. Don’t get me wrong – he doesn’t make a lot of typos. But when one slips by, I assume he’d like to know about it, so I send an e-mail. Perhaps he counts me as a credit on his path to sainthood. I just know that it is a relief to send him a note, receive his response, and ultimately see the typo corrected. Okay, so I’m a little OCD. This is not new news.

So what’s eating at me enough to warrant an entire post? Hapiness. Yes, “hapiness”. This appeared on Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project website:

Ironically, although I follow both Gretchen and Mr. Lady, neither have reciprocated. I realized this when I went to DM them. I spent a bit of time reliving Middle School Angst, fretting about why they never followed me back, but we won’t go there (or you’re welcome to speculate in the comments – you can’t come up with anything I haven’t already considered in my paranoid “why don’t they like me” soul-search). So we can suffice it to say, they are not my friends. Not enemies, but not friends. So…do I point out the slip?

In general, not everyone is as gracious as Michael Hyatt. I’ve grown gun-shy about pointing things out. So I ask you: If it were your blog, would you want a stranger to point out an errant keystroke?

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A glimpse into the darkness

He caught a glimpse of her when she thought herself unobserved. Whatever demons were at work, their grip was powerful. Her eyes were dark pools, her breath, a sighing filled with sorrow. Motionless, she sat isolated in a shadowy corner of the clattering café.

He approached her, despite his misgivings. He was drawn toward the strength of her need. In her solitude she was amplified, magnified rather than diminished.

When she sensed him nearing she looked up, her eyes penetrating, his soul flinching. She smiled then, radiating, making the darkness and the demons seem a myth not to be believed.

{In response to this week’s word prompt from velvetverbosity.com: “myth”}

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A new adventure

As of this afternoon we’ve taken one more step toward ownership of a house that we intend to flip. We’ve had this idea in mind for a while, and we’ve been trying to find a good candidate. We made an offer on this house about a month ago but couldn’t settle on a price.
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The house went off the market, then came back on at a reduced asking price. Perfect! We made an offer and they accepted. In this case, “they” is HUD. Now, we wait. Apparently, it will take them a few days to sign the contract and they have up to 45 days before closing. Nice, right? Our government in action. Slow, but it’s progress.

Meanwhile, we will begin working on our plan of attack. Obviously we want to minimize the time required to turn the house around. To do this, we need to hit the ground running as soon as we assume ownership. I’ll be managing the business side and Mr. H will be doing the work. I’m also in charge of helping layout the plan. He is responsible for executing according to the plan, including schedule and budget. Heaven help us! We have 45 days to get this figured out.

Here are some highlights of what needs to be done:
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It seems pretty typical for a flip. The house needs paint (end to end, inside and out), a kitchen make-over, and perhaps new carpet. I’m hoping the steam cleaner (with appropriate chemicals) will be adequate to salvage the carpet, but we’ll budget for worst case. Since there’s only one bathroom in this three-bedroom home, I think our investment dollars will be well-spent in the “room of the throne”. It’s small, so some magic may be required.

Stay tuned, this promises to be quite an adventure. And a learning experience for all of us.

UPDATE: Our cashier’s check was made out to “HUD Homes” instead of plain old “HUD”. Also, the realtor’s wife (the broker for the transaction) used green ink instead of blue for her signatures. Our agent caught the error and had her sign in blue, but this was not adequate for the powers-that-be at HUD. We will need to get together tomorrow to provide a new cashier’s check and to sign a new set of documents. It’s reassuring that we’re off to such a smooth start, right?

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Pruning

This weekend I got out the big shears and did some major pruning of the first six chapters of my first novel. This section started out 31 pages long and ended up 25 pages long. On Sunday, at the next meeting of my Novel-In-Progress group, I will be handing out copies of these 25 pages, or at least that’s the plan.

As I pruned my novel, I thought about the difference in pruning “styles” evidenced by the bushes at the front door of my house. I pruned the bush on the left, Mr. H pruned the bush on the right. Eliminating 1/5 of the first 31 pages felt a lot like I was pruning the bush on the left, bringing the story down to its barest of bare bones. Er, I mean branches. Fig(urative) branches. I’m trying to find peace with my novel.

Did I go too far? The critiquers/reviewers will surely tell me. I targeted passive verbs, redundant phrases and content that didn’t move the story along. I pared words, sentences, paragraphs.

Next, I suppose it will be time to fill in the gaps created by all of the pruning.

Sometimes it takes a different perspective to appreciate where the gaps really are.

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Lunch

We sat in the parking lot eating chicken wings, with the engine running and the air conditioner on its highest setting in an effort to counter the impossible heat of this Texas summer. One wing remained on the grease-stained paper plate.

“I’ll split it with you,” I offered.

“You can’t split chicken wings. There’s not enough to share.”

“Suit yourself.” I huffed back against the seat.

“Fine. Here.” He pulled the wing in half, dividing it at the joint and offering me both pieces. I chose the tip, all skin and bone.

“Mmmm. Thank you, dear. Perfection.” And it was.

{In response to this week’s word prompt from velvetverbosity.com: “split”}

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